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Guest Blogging, Kristjana’s husband, Part II

June 26th, 2008

Hello all.   If you haven’t visited in a couple of days, I am giving Kristjana a little rest, and recapping the days just prior to Kenny’s birth.   When I last left you yesterday, I had gone to bed on Thursday evening September 2nd 2005, feeling awful, 24 hours after stepping on a nail in Nabbs Creek.   I expected the medication the doc had given me would make me feel better.   We also expected a boy or girl to be born  any hour.   A few hours later…

A rescuing light – through the darkness

(Posted early September 2005)  

“This is going to be nasty!” I told my sleepy headed wife at 2:55am on Friday morning. Just 2 days from the due date, Kristjana’s body needed sleep. Our baby needed sleep. And her husband needed to go to the hospital.

“It is going to be nasty, watching me try to get from the bed to the car. It really hurts. Are you ready for it?”

Only God knows what was running through Kristjana’s mind as she bravely said yes and went off into the dark house to get dressed, get me some jeans, and to calm down Dudley.

All joking aside, it was nasty. I hadn’t crawled off a bed, down a flight of stairs, outside up our hill to our garage in the middle of the night…… in, I don’t know, days, maybe even weeks. Dudley spied me half way down the stairs, and my head first pooch walk did not register well with him. He did his best to tear my head off. That was his best attempt to ask for an explanation and to comfort me.

This entire lovely scene took 15 minutes. When Kristjana got in the driver’s seat and started the car, I didn’t know what made me feel worse, my nausea or my concern for my wife. She brilliantly got us through the dark night to the hospital formerly known as North Arundel. I’ll spare you all of the sordid details, but from 2:55 am till 4am was what I thought at the time one of the darkest hours I have ever experienced. I kept trying to pray through it, to thank God for the pain, to try to hear the message he was trying to get me to hear.

Looking back, I feel I have gotten that message.

At 4am, we had been through triage, and were waiting “comfortably” sitting in a wheel chair (me), and Kristjana on a hard bench next to me. The concern in her eyes for me was overwhelming. She was being so strong at one of the most vulnerable times of her life. She never looked more beautiful to me. I was transfixed by her smile and perfect skin and eyes during the 45 minutes when we waited for a “room” for me. But even more I was touched by a combination of that beauty and an unyielding fortitude, a combination no man could ever hold. Those 45 minutes could have lasted for days.

I think back to the book of Genesis. “It is not good for a man to be alone. I shall make a helper suitable for him” Gen 2:18. There have been debates for thousands of years regarding Eve’s place in the world. Eve as a “helper” doesn’t go over too well around the modern dinner table. But to steal from John Eldredge, the words used to describe Eve are “ezer kenegdo”, the word ezer being used only 20 other times in the entire old testament. And every other time the word is used to describe God himself, and each time when humans need him desperately. Better translated as a “lifesaver.” “It is not good for a man to be alone. I shall make a suitable life saving woman for him!” (Please see Eldredge’s Wild at Heart for more details on this!).

Thus, there are two ways to look back at this night:

I could look back and say that I was in horrible pain, vomiting, feverish, sweating, with no medical help, and it felt like hell.


I can remember the time sitting in the wheel chair, staring at my captivating, life saving wife, amazed that God had given me such a woman, and revealed a side of Himself that evening, that I never truly knew. I can remember service and the desire to serve; only thinking God take care of my wife and child tonight, and Kristjana praying the same for me. Concern only for each other. When I think of the night like this, I see the truth. I see heaven.

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Back to the future….  


  1. Christy says

    I m dying to hear the diagnoses from the ER!! Was it related to the nail? Was it tetnus?

    I loved reading your reflection on the whole episode! You have a wonderful marriage.

    Thanks for your guest post-I will be praying for Kristjana and your little one!
    Christy Kleffman

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  2. Karen H Whiting says

    I recall when I got a nail in my tibia bone with husband away and four babies at home. But, those times become part of the fabric of our lives.

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  3. Debbie says

    It truly shows what a wonderful relationship the two of you have that you drop everything for each other, even at the most “inconvenient” times. What a great memory for both of you sitting in the ER and realizing what is important to focus on. May all three of you find a little time to rest before your new blessing arrives. I will continue to think of you and wish you much luck with the new arrival

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  4. Angela says

    Whatta guy!
    i like this blog, just found it :]
    check out mine! hehe.


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